On Divorce

Matthew 19: 3-9: "And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, 'Is it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause?' He answered, 'Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, 'Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.' They said to him, 'Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?' He said to them,'Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.'" (ESV)

What happened to marriage? What happened to vowing your life to someone for better or for worse? For richer or for poorer? Why do we give up on the ones we pledge to love?

Now a days one can get a divorce for the silliest of things, such as the significant other doesn't do dishes, or this person said that, etc, etc. They aren't willing to set aside their differences and work through their faults. In other words, they don't fit that person any more so they're throwing them aside like they would a pair of jeans.

This really does infuriate me.

I have friends who are divorcing or are the children of divorce. I'm the child of a divorce. My husband is the child of divorce. We all know that it sucks. 

The friends i have that are divorced or are divorcing are the ones i never thought it'd happen to. They are the ones that i look at and say, "if they can't make it, what chance do i have?" But John and i have made a commitment to stay married, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer. Those of you that know us know that we've already been  tried and tested multiple times. And it's only made us stronger.

If you're married, engaged, have a boyfriend/girlfriend, or even just want one eventually, get it in your head now to make it a full commitment. Don't even let the word "divorce" enter into your marriage or relationship. Rededicate yourself to the person you swore you'd spend the rest of your life with. Don't become a statistic.